Did you know that more than half of all New Year resolutions fail? For me, that’s not that hard to believe because for years I made a New Year resolution that failed. A lot of them failed before the first quarter of the year was over. It wasn’t until about 2016 that I actually stuck with one of my New Year resolutions. Boy did it feel good!
While there are many reasons peoples resolutions fail, I believe these are the 3 most common reasons.
The main reason is that your resolution isn’t specific. People often make vague resolutions to lose weight and eat healthier. Is that 2lbs or 20lbs you want to lose? Is that 1 healthy meal a month or 1 healthy meal a day? Not making it clear and specific not only sets you up for failure, but it makes it harder to notice if you DO achieve the goal. This year instead of making a resolution to lose weight, make it lose 10lbs by April. Then have a reward in place for yourself for achieving that goal. Promise yourself a new bathing suit for summer or a spa day with your girlfriends.
The second most common reason they fail is that your resolution isn’t doable. Losing 50lbs before summer is not an attainable goal for most people, but losing 10lbs before April is. If you super exceed that goal.. kudos to you, up the ante on that reward! If your goal is to eat healthier, maybe make your new goal to incorporate vegetables into every meal, that’s a much easier goal to stick with. A bonus to making it specific like that is that it takes some of the anxiety out of it. In my mind when I think of eating healthier, I think of cutting out everything UNHEALTHY. However, when I think of adding a vegetable to every meal, I think of sweet potato fries instead of regular fries. Heck, just make it a turkey burger with sweet potato fries!
Lastly, your resolution will likely not stick if you aren’t doing it for the right reason. Everybody I know wants to lose weight and eat healthier and have more money, but do you want that because society says we should want that or do you want that because you truly want to feel better in your own skin? I always wanted to lose the baby weight that I had been hanging on to since 2012. It wasn’t until 2016, after the birth of my 2nd son that I decided I wanted to feel better in my own skin. I wanted to be healthier. I wanted to run behind my kids and play with them without being out of breath instantly. Once I became passionate about my resolution and decided I was doing it for me, it became much easier to stick with.
With all that being said, maybe your resolution this year is more of an unresolution like no more calorie counting and accepting yourself for who you really are. That’s perfectly fine. Resolutions are fun. The beginning of a new year is a great starting place for goals, but let’s be honest, you can make a resolution any day, month, or week you want. There’s no rule that says they have to be made January 1st or never.
Whatever resolution you go with this year, make sure its something that will better you and something that you are passionate about and something that’s meaningful to you. You’ll have a much better chance of success that way.