Being a mother definitely tips the scales in one direction…often in the direction of overwhelm and exhaustion. This seems to be the case in all seasons of Motherhood. I remember thinking when my youngest was an infant that things would be easier when they were both a bit older. Wrong! They still require just as much time and energy now as they did then.
I struggle daily with the mom-life balancing act. Throw an anxiety disorder in the mix with a large helping of Adult ADD and you’ve got my recipe for disaster that I deal with every day (the struggle is real, yall). In the thick of those challenges and when I’m feeling totally defeated is usually when I remember the truths that have helped me in the past.
- Breaking up your tasks – There are only so many hours in the day, I know, but for some reason, I like to convince myself that I can do it ALL every day. All that does is burn the candle at both ends and results in mom losing her sh*t over spilt milk at the end of the week when it catches up with me. Instead, I try to look at it from a weekly standpoint. I can’t workout every evening like my husband would like, it’s just not in the cards for me. I know its necessary and I do feel better when I do it consistently, but I just can’t fit it in every night. Instead, I try to fit it in 3-4 times a week. Same applies to working on this blog. In a perfect world, I would work on it a couple of
distraction-freehours a day, but that never happens. I usually end up sporadically working on it about an hour a day and then 2(ish) nights a week I make every attempt to dedicate 2-3 good hours to it.
- Embrace the Imperfect Mom role – Every morning I wake up and try to do everything without ANY mistakes and every night I go to bed thinking, “today wasn’t perfect but that’s ok”. I kill myself trying to do it all perfectly and its just not possible. Nothing will ever be perfect when the kids are involved. Period. I am constantly reminding myself to live in the moment more and not worry so much about the curve balls that are thrown my way.
- Don’t try to do it all alone – Ask for help. This is probably my toughest area to conquer mainly because I like the way I do things and if I want it done that way I just do it myself instead of explaining to someone else how to do it. If you haven’t noticed, I struggle with perfectionism and I think I should be able to do it all, all the time, perfectly. Marcus, my husband, is amazing and he knows all of this about me so often times he just takes the initiative to help me out and reduce the load and it makes a world of difference.
- Find your own Mothering style – Mommin’ isn’t one size fits all. I’m still learning what best suits my personality and my kids needs when it comes to parenting. So often I get caught up in feeling my home life has to look a certain way based on my childhood memories or comparison to friends. But since no mother, child, or set of circumstances are the same, we’ll never have it all “right.” and that’s OKAY.
What small change can you make today to help you better juggle the joys of Motherhood?
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