Juggling the Joys of Motherhood and Life

Being a mother definitely tips the scales in one direction…often in the direction of overwhelm and exhaustion. This seems to be the case in all seasons of Motherhood. I remember thinking when my youngest was an infant that things would be easier when they were both a bit older. Wrong! They still require just as much time and energy now as they did then.

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I struggle daily with the mom-life balancing act. Throw an anxiety disorder in the mix with a large helping of Adult ADD and you’ve got my recipe for disaster that I deal with every day (the struggle is real, yall). In the thick of those challenges and when I’m feeling totally defeated is usually when I remember the truths that have helped me in the past.

  1. Breaking up your tasks – There are only so many hours in the day, I know, but for some reason, I like to convince myself that I can do it ALL every day. All that does is burn the candle at both ends and results in mom losing her sh*t over spilt milk at the end of the week when it catches up with me. Instead, I try to look at it from a weekly standpoint. I can’t workout every evening like my husband would like, it’s just not in the cards for me. I know its necessary and I do feel better when I do it consistently, but I just can’t fit it in every night. Instead, I try to fit it in 3-4 times a week. Same applies to working on this blog. In a perfect world, I would work on it a couple of distraction-free hours a day, but that never happens. I usually end up sporadically working on it about an hour a day and then 2(ish) nights a week I make every attempt to dedicate 2-3 good hours to it.
  2. Embrace the Imperfect Mom role – Every morning I wake up and try to do everything without ANY mistakes and every night I go to bed thinking, “today wasn’t perfect but that’s ok”. I kill myself trying to do it all perfectly and its just not possible. Nothing will ever be perfect when the kids are involved. Period. I am constantly reminding myself to live in the moment more and not worry so much about the curve balls that are thrown my way.
  3. Don’t try to do it all alone – Ask for help. This is probably my toughest area to conquer mainly because I like the way I do things and if I want it done that way I just do it myself instead of explaining to someone else how to do it. If you haven’t noticed, I struggle with perfectionism and I think I should be able to do it all, all the time, perfectly. Marcus, my husband, is amazing and he knows all of this about me so often times he just takes the initiative to help me out and reduce the load and it makes a world of difference.
  4. Find your own Mothering style – Mommin’ isn’t one size fits all. I’m still learning what best suits my personality and my kids needs when it comes to parenting.  So often I get caught up in feeling my home life has to look a certain way based on my childhood memories or comparison to friends. But since no mother, child, or set of circumstances are the same, we’ll never have it all “right.” and that’s OKAY.
My parenting style is silly! – Halley | Momatello

What small change can you make today to help you better juggle the joys of Motherhood?

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Juggling the Joys of Motherhood

15 thoughts on “Juggling the Joys of Motherhood and Life

  1. Great post and always embrace imperfection as that means you are human and real. In the end life to me is all about making moments and creating memories and we don’t do that well if we are stressing too much. All power to you for encouraging real mums to be just that! #WanderingWednesdays

  2. Great tips! I think we all struggle with mom-life balance. I’ve learned to just let some stuff go. I’d rather spend time with my son then cleaning an hour everyday. So my house is always messy. I do clean, but it’s more in 10-20 minute blocks when I can. I struggle with time to blog, too. Only have a couple hours to work on it at night, but then sometimes I’m just too tired after my son finally goes to bed.

  3. I have to constantly remind myself “It’s just a thing” when it comes to my two boys. Whether they spill something, break something, or other typical boy behavior, I am able to be calmer in my reaction if I remember that “things” can be replaced. I will probably not remember the dozens (dare I say hundreds) of things ruined by the time my boys are grown, but they are likely to remember that mom always blew up at them for every infraction.

  4. One of my favorite things I like to say to myself when I’m going about my day is “You do you!” Comparing myself or my circumstances to someone else’s doesn’t do me much good. We are all so different, so me doing what works for me is best! Great post!

    Thanks for joining #WanderingWednesday!

  5. Great solid advice! I remember thinking the same thing – it has to get easier – right? Truth is when they are younger it is physically draining, when they are older it is emotionally draining, You lose sleep for different reasons than a baby who won’t sleep through the night. I love how you’ve put the basics in there to keep it simple and enjoyable. Don’t stress too much and enjoy the ride!

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